Most of us are living in our mind too too much.We are living in the world of our opinion and judgment masquerading as reality.
Maybe it’s time to get out of our head and look at reality.
I was talking to my daughters recently. They said that their mother (my wife) loves one of them more than the other and that they have lots of proof for the same. Both were in complete agreement about it. And they were OK with it.
I had to do something.
I told them that it is their opinion. They said that they have lots of examples to prove their point of view.
So then I shared with them on how no one has access to reality. All of us are living in our interpretations, our opinions and judgement and thinking that that is reality. I said that they have an opinion that mother loves one of them more and mother has an opinion that she loves both of them equally. And all the three of them are living in the world of opinions. And all of us as human beings live in a world of opinion. That is all. There is nothing except the world of opinion and judgement and we don’t know that we are living in the world of opinion and judgement and we are continuously projecting our opinions and judgements and then reinforcing our opinion and judgements.
I think the only thing that got them to listen is when they asked and I confirmed affirmatively that YES, not only them, everyone of us is living in a world of opinion and judgement. Then they were ready to listen.
They were now willing to question their opinions and could see that when they are living in the world of opinions, they are living in their Head.
Now, it was time to try another conversation… Studies.
I asked: So, is Mathematics a DIFFICULT subject or is it their opinion.
They said NO. Mathematics and couple of other subjects are difficult subjects. That is a reality.
Thankfully after some time, they could see that they have opinions and judgements about the subjects, the teachers and themselves and that is coming in the way of they studying fully and getting the performance they want.
So we created a game. I asked them some questions.
Where is the subject – in their head or in the books and videos they study. They said in the books and videos they study.
Where is worry? Head or Book. They said Head.
Where is tension? Head or Book. They said Head
and so on
Now everyday, couple of times I remind them and they also remind themselves: Are you in your Mind OR in your Book? And if you are in your mind, get out of your mind and get into the book.
They are enjoying the game and are feeling very empowered.
Now, let’s come back to all of us. Shall we? Where are we living?
In Our Professions: Where are all those fears, challenges, anxieties,difficulties, enemies living? Are our careers and businesses limited by how much we live in our head and how much we live in the real world out here.
In our Personal Lives: Where are all those worries, upsets, anger and opinions living?Are our relationships and personal goals like health, finance, education etc., impacted by the time we spent in our head – our opinions and judgements instead of being out here dealing with life as it is happening.
So dear, Welcome to the World of Being out of your mind…
The beginning of transforming perceptions, relationships and performance.